The 65th Wedding Anniversary does not have a traditional gift theme. After 50 years the traditional gift themes originally stuck to Jubilee years, so 75th was the next anniversary. Likewise the Contemporary or Modern anniversary list shows that there are no 65th anniversary gift themes. Furthermore there are no flowers associated with the 65th anniversary.
The Gemstone list shows Star Sapphire as an appropriate gift theme for the 65th Anniversary. Star Sapphire is a Six Ray star naturally occurring gemstone. It is most often cut and polished as a Cabochon style stone to emphasise the star shape. It is in the same family as the well know blue sapphire. Some people believe sapphire to be the wisdom stone. It is available in different colours with the Blue Sapphire being the most prized and well known.
65th Year Wedding Anniversary Gift Ideas
Please see our 65th Anniversary Gifts page for our full range of gift ideas some are below;
Themes for gemstone wedding anniversary gifts come from a list of precious and semi-precious gemstones that are associated with each specific year. The different years, the majority of the time, have different gemstone associated with that year, here we are talking about the Gemstone Anniversary List, other popular lists include the the Modern, Traditional and Flower lists. The general idea behind this is so that you can select a gift with the theme of the material mentioned for the year thus making it easier to select an appropriate gift.
The Gemstone Wedding Anniversary Gifts List
The gemstone wedding anniversary list has developed over the generations into the one shown below, some of the years have variations on the theme depending upon who has published the list. More history of how the wedding list evolved is available on our Gemstone Wedding List History page.
Below in the list the anniversary year will link you to pages with ideas available from all the Gift lists (e.g. Traditional, Modern, Gemstone and Flower) or choose the gemstone for the year you are celebrating, or buying for, for a list of wedding anniversary gifts specific to that gemstone and year.
Some years have no material or theme under the gemstone anniversary list, below the fiftieth these anniversaries will have a theme in the Modern Anniversary List. Above the 50th they have no theme or material.
There are a few variations with the gemstone wedding anniversary gifts list shown above where we have found variations we have listed them with the most common/popular listed first.
List Sources: Anniversary Gift List – American Gem Society. A Brief Dictionary of American Superstitions – Vergilius Ferm, The Philosophical Library, 1959.
Milestone Gemstone wedding anniversary gifts
As with other Wedding Anniversary Lists the Gemstone list converges with the other lists on the milestone anniversaries so the material or theme is the same as the other lists e.g. 25th Anniversary is Silver and the 40th Anniversary is Ruby
Beyond 50 years of marriage each anniversary year does not have a symbol or material associated with it, rather every 5 years is celebrated with the exception of 65 years of marriage which has no traditional symbol associated with the year although Star Sapphire is often quoted.
Although there is a symbol for every 5th year up until 100 years of marriage we have yet to see anyone achieve an anniversary over 90 years although given people are now living longer we feel this is only a matter of time before this occurs. Wikipedia maintain a list of couples who have had the longest marriage together.
The traditional fifty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of 55th; an alternative traditional fifty-fifth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Emerald. The modern fifty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Emerald. The gemstone fifty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Alexandrite.
The traditional seventy-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamonds. The modern seventy-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamonds.
The eightieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Pearls; an alternative modern eightieth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Diamonds. Oak has also been mentioned although no reference source can be found for this theme.
The eight-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Sapphire; an alternative modern eight fifth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Diamonds.
The ninety-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Ruby; an alternative modern ninety fifth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Diamonds.
Q.What is my Wedding Anniversary symbol or material?
A.If you know how many years you have been married or are planning to celebrate then you can find out what you anniversary is from our anniversary selector page. All those that have a traditional symbol or material associated against the year are listed here.
Q.I forgot my Wedding anniversary this year what should I do?
A. If your partner is upset by this then we would recommend a period of grovelling followed by a period of penance !! In this day and age it is often easy to forget important days such as Anniversaries by all means use our reminder to help you remember and it is provided only for this purpose.
Q.What are the Anniversaries that are considered major? The most major anniversaries are the 25th and 50th, after these come 60th & 75th and then every 5th year (i.e. 5th,10th 15th etc.) with every 10th year being more important than every 5th year.
Q.Hi, I’m doing research on the wedding anniversary materials. What I’m really looking for is what each material means. Do they represent something in each year. Please email me back if you have any information about the subject, or where I can find this kind of information. Thank you.
A. I’m afraid I can’t help you in your search for the meanings of the material against the Anniversary. The closest I have come to this is the suggestion that the materials are selected in the order that they would wear out. I have however never had this collaborated by any research I have carried out.
Q. It will be my in laws 40th wedding anniversary. What can I do to make it special and inexpensive?
Q. My problem is that I don’t know exactly what our children are doing for us…we do know they are having some kind of a celebration but we do not know the particulars. SO, we want to be ready for what ever comes up and not have “egg on our face”. I told them what ever they did, please state “No Gifts Please”. An invitation to a celebration does not confer an expectation that gifts are expected the persons company is considered gift enough.
Q. Please help us find the right motif colour for the 65th wedding anniversary of our grandparents. A. I afraid I cannot help you with your question either as I have not been able to find much details on the 65th anniversary. Most lists miss out the 65th for some reason I have yet to discover. The only list I have found which contains a material for the 65th is the Gem stone list which states Star Sapphire as the Gem Stone associated with this Anniversary.
Q. What do you do for the 100th year Anniversary? A. A 100th Wedding Anniversary is a 10 carat Diamond anniversary and I would be surprised to hear of couple achieving this feat. I assume you are talking about a company’s Centenary celebration which is slightly different although it is still called a Diamond Anniversary.
Q. I am giving my parents a surprise 25th anniversary party but I have a concern regarding gifts. my mother hates silver! what are some optional gifts i could suggest?
A. I’m afraid I can’t help you much on this one, all roads seem to lead to Silver on this anniversary. I thought that the Gem list for anniversaries may show a different material however this was sterling silver. One thing you could do is recreate the era when they got married and theme gifts on that era. I make it the 70’s which would either be the Glam Rock era or early Disco!
Q. We are giving our parents a 50th Anniversary and would like to know what we should call the female and male witnesses – attendant and grooms-man?
A. Most references refer to them as witnesses, which is not a bad term in itself as this is mentioned right back to the birth of marriage ceremonies. If they did some other function at the wedding then these titles would also do.
Q. Is there a traditional colour for the bride of 50 years to wear?
A. As it is the Golden Anniversary the colour is Gold, this doesn’t mean that the outfit has to be all gold you could choose just accessories or anywhere in between. One thing to remember however; is that it is your anniversary and thus etiquette allows you to decide what you want to wear and how you would like to celebrate.
Q. If one of the children make a speech, what response and toasts, if any, should the parents make?
A. The replies you give to any speeches made are very dependant upon your family circle & culture; this makes this a difficult question to answer with certainty. Typically anniversary speeches follow along similar lines to a wedding celebration and thus thanking those who organized the event and for the people who turned up to join you in your celebration. One thing to bare in mind is that it is your anniversary and thus you can choose how to respond.
Q. What is the proper way to ask for monetary gifts on an invitation for my parents 40th wedding anniversary. They do not want to offend anyone by asking. How can this be placed on the invitation in a nice manner.
A. It’s extremely difficult to ask for money on an invitation, most reference books on Anniversary Etiquette say that you should never ask for a monetary gift. One way I’ve seen round this and was successful was to put on the invitation the reason for money, e.g. They are saving for a holiday of a lifetime or what ever the reason and that should you wish to contribute to this then there will be a collection box at the celebration that they can contribute. At the particular event I attended the box was placed prominently but discreetly in a corner of the room and thus you did not feel you had to contribute.
Q. I was just wondering what the 100th anniversary is. Any information you could provide would be helpful. A. The 100th Wedding Anniversary is deemed a 10 Carat Diamond Anniversary, if it is a business celebration then it is just a centenary celebration.
Today (20th November 2012) Her Majesty The Queen and The Duke of Edinburgh celebrate their 65th Wedding Anniversary, they should be congratulated for achieving the milestone having lived their life in the public gaze; it is heart-warming to see them still together after all this time.
The 65th wedding anniversary does not have a traditional material associated with the year although the gemstone list shows that Star Sapphire is given as the symbol for this year.
There are two main types of gemstones, Precious and semi-precious. A gemstone is considered precious if it is rare or difficult to obtain, these particular stones often attract a high commercial price. A Semi-precious gemstone is classified as such by being more widely available that precious stones.
The most sought after precious stones are currently Diamond, Ruby, Sapphire and Emerald. However, more traditionally stones such as Opal, Pearl (although not strictly a gemstone) and Amethyst was once considered to be precious and extremely rare. Amethyst was considered to be extremely rare and precious going as far back as ancient Greece. However, During the 19th Century, large deposits of the stone were found in South America and has since been reclassified as semi-precious.
Today, we are going to tell you what anniversary a precious gemstone is associated with.
Diamond
Diamond is the traditional gemstone for the 60th, 70th and 75th Wedding Anniversaries.
Diamond is the most precious of stones, the stone demands a premium prices and has even sparked wars due to its rarity making many retailers not accept what is now known as Blood Diamonds .
Diamond is a favoured stone for engagements or eternity rings, most likely as it represents “virtue” however its first meaning was “courage” which came from the Greek word “adamas” which translates to ‘invincible’.
Rubies are deep red in colour and are found in deposits worldwide. Rubies demand a premium depending on the overall look of the stone, A deep red called pigeon blood red, transparent and a superior cut are the rarest and therefore extremely valuable. The stones carat (weight) also determines its worth.
Ruby is one of the best known precious gemstones, it also comes with a wealth of claims including making all obstacles in the path of happiness to melt away, it repairs broken friendships and can help improve memory!
Sapphire
Sapphire is the traditional gemstone for the 5th, 23rd, 45th and 65th Wedding Anniversaries
Sapphires can vary in colour such as pink and yellow, however the most popular and one of the rarest is the Blue Sapphire. Sapphires and known to be extremely durable and hard and are therefore sometime used in commercials items such as scientific equipment and components in wrist watches.
Although Sapphire is the gemstone for the 65th wedding Anniversary, it is traditionally known as Star Sapphire. A gemstone is considered a “star” when it has star-like properties within the stone, this is known as asterism. It is recognised by having a star shaped pattern when viewed with a light source.
Sapphire gemstones have long been believed to stand for devotion which as it puts in an appearance for the 65th wedding anniversary is rather apt.
Emerald
Emerald is the traditional gemstone for the 20th,35th and 55th Wedding Anniversaries
Emerald is a rich green in colour and like other precious gemstones is considered more valuable if it is a dark green with a transparent finish. Other lower quality stones will often be dark green but are completely opaque.
Emerald was once a favourite gift between lovers, as it was believed to lose its colour should either the giver or receiver become unfaithful. It is claimed to help with those who have weak sight and it used to be believed that if a serpent looked at an emerald it would become blind.
Beyond 50 years of marriage each anniversary year does not have a symbol or material associated with it, rather every 5 years is celebrated with the exception of 65 years of marriage which has no traditional symbol associated with the year although Star Sapphire is often quoted.
Although there is a symbol for every 5th year up until 100 years of marriage we have yet to see anyone achieve an anniversary over 90 years although given people are now living longer we feel this is only a matter of time before this occurs. Wikipedia maintain a list of couples who have had the longest marriage together.
55th Wedding anniversary also known as the Emerald Wedding
The traditional fifty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of 55th; an alternative traditional fifty-fifth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Emerald. The modern fifty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Emerald. The gemstone fifty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Alexandrite.
60th Wedding anniversary
The modern sixtieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamonds. The gemstone sixtieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamonds.
65th Wedding anniversary
The sixty-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Star Sapphire.
70th Wedding anniversary
The modern seventieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Platinum.
75th Wedding anniversary also known as the Diamond Wedding
The traditional seventy-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamonds. The modern seventy-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamonds.
80th Wedding anniversary
The eightieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Pearls; an alternative modern eightieth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Diamonds. Oak has also been mentioned although no reference source can be found for this theme.
85th Wedding anniversary
The eight-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Sapphire; an alternative modern eight fifth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Diamonds.
90th Wedding anniversary
The ninetieth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Diamonds; an alternative modern ninetieth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Emerald.
95th Wedding anniversary
The ninety-fifth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Ruby; an alternative modern ninety fifth wedding anniversary gift can be themed with Diamonds.
100th Wedding anniversary
The one hundredth wedding anniversary gift has a theme of Ten Carat Diamond.
Congratulations on your 45th year wedding anniversary. This is one of the biggest milestones you can achieve and you’re only another five years from your half century together. Before you start thinking about what 45th year wedding anniversary gifts you could buy take a look around our website for some anniversary gifts and ideas. As you’ll be well-aware, there are certain themes, symbols and items associated with certain wedding anniversaries and the 45th is no different.
Across the board with all the anniversary lists, the main theme of the 45th year wedding anniversary is Sapphire. That azure blue gemstone is not only the gem of choice but it is the modern and the traditional theme suggested for the 45th wedding anniversary. Therefore, when it comes to buying a 45th year wedding anniversary gift the stunning blue jewel should be looked at.
As you know there are many different ways you could incorporate the sapphire into your gift buying and none are more so impressive than a large ring. Your 45th wedding anniversary is so special as it marks the occasion that you brought your two lives together all of those years ago and by splashing out and buying a piece of jewellery with a Sapphire in it will make it all the more special. You could find earrings, bracelets, a brooch or even an anklet with a sapphire in it and you just know that your wife will absolutely adore it.
There aren’t just blue sapphires either, some traces of other elements can affect the colour and there have been many sapphires that are green, orange, purple, pink and even yellow. So, if you’re in the running to buy a sapphire but your spouse doesn’t like blue then fear not as there are many other colours. The other gemstone that is sometimes associated with the 45th wedding anniversary is Alexandrite which is just as beautiful as sapphire but most people prefer the rarer jewel to give as a gift.
As the flower anniversary list does not associate any flowers with the 45th year wedding anniversary, that choice is left up to you but remember, no wedding anniversary present would be complete without a stunning bouquet of flowers. Depending on the time of year means that certain flowers will be available and if your wife loves daffodils then the spring time could well mean that your wedding anniversary flowers could be those stark yellow ones.
Whatever you decide to buy for your 45th wedding anniversary gift, make sure it has the sapphire theme running through it and make the most of this landmark occasion. Your love for each other would have grown so much over the years and before long you will be able to say that you have been married for 50 years!
The 45th year wedding anniversary Facts and Figures
On the 45th anniversary of your marriage you would have been married for:
16,425 days, which is
394,200 hours, which is
23,652,000 minutes, which is
Over 1,419 million seconds!
During this time you would have shared, on average, over 123,100 hours of snuggle time (sleeping!) or about 14 years, 1 months; assuming you don’t work together you’ve been apart for over 95,148 hours which is about 10 years, 10 months. You would have by now shared about 35,800 meals together which equates to approximately 2 years, 5 months of continuous eating!
45th Year Wedding Anniversary Gift Ideas
Please see out 45th Anniversary Gifts page for our full range of gift ideas some are below;
The 65th wedding anniversary does not have a traditional material associated with the year although the gemstone list shows that Star Sapphire is given as the symbol for this year.
