Wedding Anniversary Party Planning

We get a lot of questions regarding anniversary parties and celebrations from visitors to our site so we have developed these pages to address the specific area of wedding anniversary parties and the etiquette that applies.

The first thing we always say is how you celebrate an anniversary is very dependant upon the couple and the family circle they belong to e.g. if the couple usually have informal celebrations then don’t plan a celebration that is full of pomp and circumstance, they are very likely to feel uncomfortable and not enjoy it as they should. This of course applies the opposite way as well if they generally have formal parties then do not plan a pizza delivery or pitch in celebration!

Anniversary parties are special events, not only do they bring back all the memories of the couple’s special day, but they are also a celebration of the continuing commitment to each other with the chance for friends and relations to join in and show their love and support.

Most people tend to keep the earlier anniversaries on an intimate level although if you both love parties then there are no etiquette rules that say this must be respected. The larger anniversary celebrations tend to be for the major anniversaries such as the Silver, Ruby and Golden weddings.

Planning an Anniversary party containing;

Who to invite and how many people?
Bookings resources (caterers, restaurants, MCs, bands etc.)
Resources for those unable to attend the event.
What to call an Anniversary Party.
Venues for an Anniversary party

Invitations to an Anniversary Party containing;

The formal rules of Invitation etiquette
Traditional formal anniversary invitation line by line wording
Informal Invitations
Responding to an invitation to an anniversary party

Attending an Anniversary Party.

Formal Anniversary Parties

  • Publicity
  • Programs


Food and Drink

Giving Gifts

Wedding Anniversary Speeches and toasts

Themes and Colours for Anniversary Parties

Wedding Anniversary Folklore and traditions

We’ve got lots of information on wedding anniversaries and their etiquette, through our continuing research we pick up the occasional snippet which we just love; the Victorian marriage rhymes below refer to the best ways to marry, did you chose right?

Wedding Rhyme

Monday for wealth
Tuesday for health
Wednesday the best day of all
Thursday for losses
Friday for crosses
Saturday for no day at all

Marry in Lent, live to repent
(ed note.) Lent was thought an inappropriate time for a wedding, being a time of abstinence.

Married in White, you have chosen right,
Married in Grey, you will go far away,
Married in Black, you will wish yourself back,
Married in Red, you will wish yourself dead,
Married in Green, ashamed to be seen,
Married in Blue, your love will be true,
Married in Pearl, you will live in a whirl,
Married in Yellow, ashamed of your fellow,
Married in Brown, you will live in the town,
Married in Pink, your spirit will sink.

If you’ve got any wedding or marriage related gems like these we would love to hear from you.


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