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Beginners guide to wedding anniversary gifts etiquette

wedding anniversary gifts etiquette

Us oldies, occasionally forget that newly weds may not know the ins and outs of Wedding Anniversary gifts etiquette. There’s lots of social conventions that surround them. So here’s a quick run down of the etiquette.

Wedding Anniversary Gifts Etiquette

  • Gift giving is not mandatory, commemorating the event however is highly desirable.
  • The Couple, typically, instigate the early years Anniversary celebrations.
  • The couple’s children organise later major wedding anniversaries.
  • Major milestone Wedding Anniversaries occur every 5th year after the 20th year.
  • The Major Wedding Anniversaries are 25th, 40th, 50th, 60th and 75th years.
  • Traditionally gift giving is often themed or made of a specific material which differs for each year. The Traditional Wedding Anniversary List shows these materials for each year.
  • A Modern version of the traditional list was provided to produce a more comprehensive list to cover more anniversary years. This runs side by side with the traditional list allowing you to choose gifts from either list.
  • Other organisations have released other Wedding Anniversary lists. The only other two that are notable are the Gemstone Anniversary List and the appropriate flower list.

That’s it really. If you still have a question surrounding wedding anniversary gifts etiquette then please check our etiquette section as we have lots of help there. If all else fails drop us a line and we’ll try and help.

Finally, we’ve had many discussions on whether it is a requirement to thank people for wedding anniversary gifts. The simple answer is always yes, it is good wedding anniversary gifts etiquette. How you thank them will vary a lot depending upon your social circle. Really the easiest way to answer this is to refer back to your wedding, how you did it them should still hold true now.

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Thanking People for Gifts

Thank you cards and correct etiquette

There is a certain etiquette that has been established over time for thanking people for gifts whether that gift is for your Wedding Anniversary or indeed another celebration.

The degree you go to will also vary depending upon your family and friends and if there are any developed conventions within your group.

Generally you should thank people if they have given you a gift, it is considered good manners to do so, how you thank them will again depend upon your social circle and the expectations they place upon you.

A good why to thank people for the gift is to make mention of it, by name, and include something complimentary about it’s appearance and usefulness.

Thanking People for Gifts

Below we’ve listed the best methods to use when thanking someone in order of the most preferred to acceptable:

  1. Hand-written note, hand delivered or posted.
  2. Thank you Notelet, Hand written
  3. Video Message.
  4. eMail or Direct Message to their own (not business) account
  5. Via public social Media

It is always good to mention the gift they gave and if possible never thank them in the 1st sentence of the letter. e.g. Dear Dave, What a lovely calendar you gave us this Christmas. Thank you.

You would be better to say something like ‘Dear Dave, It was great to see you at Christmas and I hope you had a great time. Thank you for the lovely Calendar you gave us, we’re planning to hang it on our Kitchen door replacing last year’s one and will be ideal to keep track of the coming year.’

 

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Beginners guide to Wedding Anniversaries

Us oldies, occasionally forget that newly weds may not know the ins and outs of Wedding Anniversary etiquette so here’s a quick run down of the etiquette.

  • Gift giving is not mandatory, commemorating the event however is highly desirable.
  • Early years Anniversary celebrations are instigated, typically, by the couple, later major ones may be organised by the couples children.
  • Every 5th year is considered a major milestone Anniversary
  • The 25th, 40th, 50th and 60th are the years considered the Major Wedding Anniversaries.
  • Traditionally if a gift is given then it is often themed or made of a specific material which differs for each year. The Traditional Wedding Anniversary List shows all these materials for each year.
  • A Modern version of the traditional list was updated to produce a more comprehensive list to cover more anniversary years, this runs side by side with the traditional list allowing you to choose gifts from either list.
  • Other organisations have release other Wedding Anniversary lists, the only other two that are notable are the Gemstone Anniversary List and the appropriate flower list.

That’s it really, if you still have an etiquette question surrounding a wedding anniversary then please check our etiquette section or drop us a line and we’ll try and help.

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When is a Wedding Anniversary not an Anniversary?

The earliest known references to celebrations for wedding anniversaries which have symbols associated within them we have found to date are to the Silver Wedding (25 years of marriage) and Golden Wedding (50th Wedding Anniversary).

Originating in the middle of Europe (Germany/Austrian Region) they involved the husband giving his wife a silver garland when they had been married for 25 years and a Gold garland when they had been married for 50 years.

One of the noteworthy things from the above is that the celebrations were termed the Silver Wedding and Golden Wedding with no reference to anniversary hence when celebrating any wedding anniversary that has a symbol associated with, it is appropriate to just call it by the material then wedding e.g. Silver Wedding for the 25th or Paper Wedding for the 1st Anniversary.

Thus, when people refer to the Golden Wedding Anniversary they are technically talking about a subsequent year after the event e.g. the anniversary of the Golden Wedding!