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When is Mary & Joseph’s Wedding Anniversary

I noticed today (23rd January) on Twitter someone put forward the fact that it is Mary & Joseph’s Wedding Anniversary, given the level of fake news around I figured I’d at least check this before blindly retweeting. Oh boy, wish I hadn’t.

Firstly the religious scholars differ on whether they were actually married when Jesus was born and if you can’t agree this fact how can you decide when they where actually married.

The things that can be determined seem to come mostly from the gospels of Matthew and Luke. The details get blurred when translations from ancient languages to modern struggle with the intent of words. For example the ancient word to describe a wife can in certain contexts also simply refer to a woman.

The whole basis of the difference seems to be on whether betrothed is a state of marriage in ancient Hebrew scriptures means they were engaged or married.

There are plenty of resources if you search discussing these points however none really address the actually date of when they married and thus their actual wedding anniversary. From our prospective it would seem they were married before Jesus was born as why would Mary travel to Bethlehem with Joseph for the Census, he was from there and she was not thus would have travelled to her own town if not married to him.

It is a bit frustrating as we cannot confirm what date even if they wed before or after Jesus was born and the closest we came was someone declaring that they married in 2BC based on the latest astronomical calculations. No day through! Some photos would be good, sadly though the earliest know image was not produced until the 5th Century and it had no babies in it!The Marriage of the Virgin (Raphael)

Given the slow decline in quality of material available through the search engines I suspect we’ll not easily find an answer to this question so cannot endorse this being their wedding anniversary. I would love to here any thoughts on their specific marriage day, feel free to comment.

 

 

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Chronological Mentions of Wedding anniversary using Symbols to reference the year.

The following is our references from newspaper research into mentions of Wedding Anniversaries where instead of simply stating the years they reference it using the traditional symbol e.g. Silver wedding for 25th Anniversary.
The Morning chronicle Monday, September 12, 1825; Issue 17572
(UK)

“Berlin, Sept. 30.—Today will be celebrated at Weimar as a double festival, viz as the 50th anniversary of the Grand Duke’s Government ; and also of his marriage, called in Germany, the golden wedding.
Hampshire Telegraph July 16 -1838
(UK)

Celebration of a Wedding Anniversary (from Nicholas Nickleby)

In the garret of one of the houses near Golden Square, lodges Newman Noggs, and on the first floor live the family of Mr. and Mrs. Kenwigs, the hero and heroine of the celebration aforesaid…
No Symbol mention of an anniversary in this passage.

The Era Sunday, December 29, 1839; Issue 66 (UK)

Letters from Copenhagen state, that the coronation of Christian VIII. Will take place, together with the celebration of the 25th anniversary of his marriage (called in German the silver wedding.) his Majesty was married to the present Queen Caroline Amelia, May 22 1815.

The Morning Chronicle Friday, November
9, 1849; Issue 24978 (UK)

The Queen Dowager of Austria has arrived at Schonbrunn to meet the Queens of Prussia and Saxony, who have there assembled to celebrate this day the “Silberne Hochzeit” of the Archduke Francis Charles and the Archduchess Sophia, the parents of our young Emperor. This purely German festivity is the prerogative of married people who have lived together twenty-five years, dating from the wedding day. The “Goldne (or golden) Hochzeit” (the golden wedding) is to commemorate a fifty years marriage.

The Belfast newsletters Wednesday,
October 27, 1852; Issue 11797 (UK)

A Golden Wedding
The little festival was given, I learned, in honour of the Golden Hochzeit (golden wedding) of the burgomaster of the town.

Nashville union and American January 19, 1856 (USA)

A Golden Wedding — The fiftieth anniversary of the wedding of Deacon Thomas Williams, of Vernon, Oneida county, N. Y., was celebrated
at the house where the aged couple have resided for half a century since their marriage, on Christmas. Representatives of five generations were assembled on the occasion, numbering thirty persons. The entire fifth generation was comprised in one little curly-headed fellow who lay on a bed asleep. This boy had living, a short time since, three great-grandfathers, three great-grandmother, two grandfathers and two grandmothers. The father of Deacon Williams was one of the famous “Tea Party,” at Boston, in 1773.

Vermont phoenix January 21, 1860 (USA)

All About Weddings. — The occasional celebration of “golden wedding” the fiftieth anniversary of marriage is too rare an event to suit the propensities of our fast people ; they have, therefore, be taken themselves first to the “silver wedding” at the twenty-fifth anniversary, and second to the “tin wedding” at the tenth anniversary of marriage. One would naturally think this last celebration a diluting of the matter that would be sufficiently weak to satisfy the feeblest of constitutions, but the subject has been let down one peg further in Springfield, Mass. A young clergyman coming to the fifth anniversary of his wedding night a few evenings since, found his friends gathered around him in great numbers, bearing wooden pails, tubs, saw horses, bowls, clothespins, boxes and every other variety of wooden ware known in the most plethoric establishments, or that the ingenuity of man or the cunning of woman could improvise for the occasion. The “wooden wedding” was thus turned into downright, jolly, orthodox frolic. After all we don’t think any or all of these celebrations half equal the real, genuine
wedding for attractiveness or interest.

Keowee courier
January 19, 1867 (USA)

WEDDINGS.- The following list of “commemorative weddings” is interesting to both old and young, The wedding is the “love wedding” at the end of the first month ; the end of the honeymoon is the “Sugar wedding,” two years after; marriage is the “paper wedding;” the fifth anniversary is the “wooden wedding;” the tenth, is the “tin wedding;” the fifteenth, the “crystal wedding;” the twentieth, the “china wedding;” the twenty-fifth, the “silver wedding ;” the fiftieth, the “golden wedding;” the seventy-fifth, the “diamond wedding.”
These various anniversary celebrations are becoming very common in America, and they are very pleasant occasions.

The Highland weekly news April 17, 1873 (Ohio, USA)

Weddings.
As the custom of celebrating wedding anniversaries appears to be increasing, we give a List of the commemorative days, compiled
and selected from the most approved sources:
1 year, Cotton; 2 years, Straw; 3 years, Paper, 4 years, Leather; 5 years, Wooden; 7 years, Iron; 8 years, Woolen; 10 years, Tin; 12 years, Linen; 15 years, Glass; 18 years, Silk; 20 years, China; 25 years, Silver 30 years, Pearl, 40 years, Ruby or Gem; 50 years, Golden; 75 years,
Diamond. Those most generally celebrated are the 5th, Wooden; 10th, Tin; 15th, Glass; 20th, China; 25th, Silver.

Manchester Times Saturday, June 12, 1875 (UK)

Wedding.—A wooden Wedding: Marrying a blockhead. A golden wedding: Marrying for money. A crystal wedding: marrying a “glass eye.” A tin wedding: Marrying a milkmaid. A paper wedding: Marrying an editor. A plain wedding: Marrying a carpenter. A silver wedding Marrying a maid of Sixty. The worst sort of wedding: Marrying nobody. A glass wedding: Marrying a toper.
Belmont Chronicle – January 10 1878 (USA)

The following is a list of Anniversary Weddings of interest to old and young people
First anniversary Iron.
Fifth anniversary Wooden.
Tenth anniversary Tin.
Fifteenth anniversary Crystal.
Twentieth anniversary China.
Twenty-fifth anniversary Silver.
Thirtieth anniversary Cotton.
Thirty-fifth anniversary Linen.
Fortieth anniversary Woollen.
Fiftieth anniversary Golden.
Seventy fifth anniversary Diamond.

The Leeds Mercury Saturday, October 4, 1879;
Issue 12944 (UK)

Snippet from an article on surprise parties in America … and one need not go to America to Know that the twenty-fifth marriage anniversary is that of the silver wedding. The era of fanciful and the ludicrous is now over. Gifts in silver usually take the form dictated by common sense. So also with the succeeding anniversaries considered worthy of special celebration – namely, the thirtieth, or pearl wedding; the fortieth, or ruby wedding ; and the fiftieth, or ever-memorable golden wedding. When it happens that a married couple live together until the seventy-fifth anniversary of their first marriage day dawns upon them, the occasion is honoured with the most precious name and the most precious gifts of all : it is the diamond wedding.

The National tribune October 29,
1881, Page 6 (Washington D.C. USA)

LIST OF WEDDING ANNIVERSARIES.
First year, cotton wedding ; second year, paper wedding; third year, iron wedding; fifth year, wooden wedding; seventh year, woollen wedding; tenth year, tin wedding; twelfth year, silk and fine linen wedding; fifteenth year, crystal wedding; twentieth year, china wedding; twenty-fifth year, silver wedding ; thirtieth year, pearl wedding; fortieth year, ruby wedding; fiftieth year, golden wedding; seventy-fifth
year, diamond wedding.

The Columbian November 23, 1883
(Columbia County, PA. USA)

Weddings The following is a complete list of the wedding anniversaries;
At end of first year the cotton wedding ; second year, paper wedding ; third year, leather wedding ; fifth, year, wooden wedding ; seventh
year, woolen; wedding tenth year, tin wedding twelfth year, silk and fine linen Wedding ; fifteenth year, crystal wedding ; twentieth year, china wedding ;twenty-fifth year, silver wedding ;thirtieth year, pearl wedding ; fortieth year, ruby wedding ; fiftieth year, golden wedding ; seventy-fifth year, diamond wedding.

The Newcastle Weekly Courant. Friday, June 1, 1888;
Issue 11133
Years of Married Bliss
In this age of jubilees and silver weddings, it may not be out of place to enumerate the signification of the years of matrimony. They are as follows:–
At end of first year — Cotton wedding.
Second year — Paper wedding .
Third year — Leather wedding .
Fifth, year — Wooden wedding .
Seventh year — Woollen; wedding.
Tenth year — Tin wedding.
Twelfth year — Silk and fine linen Wedding .
Fifteenth year — Crystal wedding .
Twentieth year — China wedding.
Twenty-fifth year — Silver wedding.
Thirtieth year — Pearl wedding .
Fortieth year — Ruby wedding.
Fiftieth year — Golden wedding.
Seventy-fifth year — Diamond wedding.

The evening world, March 06,
1889, EXTRA 2 O’CLOCK (New York, USA)

Celebrating a Silver Wedding. Mr. and Mrs. Jax. McKurnan celebrated the twenty-fifth anniversary of their wedding last evening by entertaining a large gathering of their friends at their residence, 238 Sixth street, Jersey City. The presents were exceptionally numerous and costly. Among the guests were Mrs. Gallagher, Miss C McKernan, Miss Flake, Miss E Rulon, Mrs. Wiatt and Mr. Wiatt, Miss Powell, Miss Hamell,Miss A. Smith, Mr.T.W. Cunliffe, Miss A.Predmore. Singing and dancing were indulged in until a late hour and the affair paused off in a most pleasurable way.

Plymouth and Cornish Advertiser 26th January
1895: No. 8604 (UK)
So rarely is it that a married couple live to celebrate the sixtieth anniversary of their wedding day that I may be pardoned for referring to such an event in Exeter. Mr. and Mrs. Gerred, of North-road, are the pair and I am sure all those who know them will wish that they may celebrate many more 25ths of January. Whilst on this subject I might mention that there appears to be a very general misconception as to the wedding anniversaries, and particularly as to a Diamond Wedding, which in reality, requires 75 years of marital companionship.
But I suppose I give the full list:-
First anniversary – Cotton Wedding.
Second – Paper wedding
Third – Leather wedding
Fifth — Wooden wedding
Seventh – Woollen wedding
Tenth – Tin wedding
Twelfth –Silk and fine linen wedding
Fifteenth – Crystal wedding
Twentieth — China wedding
Twenty-fifth – Silver wedding
Thirtieth – Pearl wedding
Fortieth – Ruby wedding.
Fiftieth – Golden wedding
Seventy-fifth – Diamond wedding.

The Rising son June 10, 1904
(USA)

Wedding Anniversaries.
Put this list aside for future reference: First wedding anniversary is the cotton; second, paper; third, leather; fifth, wooden; seventh, woolen ;tenth, tin: twelfth, silk and linen; fifteenth, crystal; twentieth, china; twenty-fifth- , sliver; thirtieth, pearl; fortieth, ruby; fiftieth, golden, and seventy-fifth, diamond.

Evening public ledger September 20, 1920, NIGHT EXTRA (USA)
The Anniversaries
To the Editor of Woman’s Page:
Dear Madam
In your questions answered please state the different names for, the wedding anniversaries, beginning with the First anniversary and giving all the special names. I know a few, but would like to have the list, as the fifth is wooden, tenth tin (or aluminium nowadays), twentieth china and so on.
A REGULAR SUBSCRIBER.
The list of wedding anniversaries Is as follows: First, cotton; second, paper; third, leather; fifth, wooden; seventh, woolen; tenth, tin (or,as you suggest aluminum); twelfth, silk and fine linen; fifteenth, crystal; twentieth, china; twenty-fifth, silver; thirtieth, pearl; fortieth, ruby; fiftieth, gold; seventy-fifth, diamond
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Who celebrates a Wedding Anniversary?

30th AnniversaryTo mark Travelodge’s 30th anniversary, they’re giving away a free night’s stay in any one of their hotels in Britain to any couple celebrating their Pearl wedding (30th anniversary) in 2015, if anyone is intending to give this as a gift to their spouse don’t expect to be celebrating your 31st anniversary!

Travelodge also carried out research on wedding anniversaries. The research surveyed 3,000 couples about their views on celebrating an anniversary with the following findings:

Are you one of the majority who celebrate (Just)

It seems unbelievable, but according to their survey, just over half (54%) of British couples mark their wedding anniversary in some way.

Pleasingly, 72% of the respondent’s actually remember when their special day is.

Who spends most (and least) on gifts?

When buying gifts, 25% of adults responded that they alone are their partner’s gift and about one in ten (9%) will try and surprise their partner on their anniversary.

The research found that on average £111.11 was spent commemorating their anniversary. From this, £41.14 is spent on a gift and £69.97 on an experience to celebrate the event such as a meal out or going away.

Men tended to spend more, £124.49 as opposed to £99.47 by the women surveyed which is about 25% more.

The amount spent rose in London, where the average lovebird spends £153.00, ahead of Newcastle (£150.84) and Cambridge (£143.04) it’s not really clear if this is purely a reflection of increased costs in these areas or if indeed the spend is a reflection of an increase in their romantic persuasions.

The lowest spenders are in Gloucester (£48.57), Wrexham (£61.17) and Worcester (£61.66).

How do you celebrate anniversaries?

When it comes to celebrating, 41% of adults who mark their anniversary do so by going out for a romantic meal, whilst a fifth (20%) go all-out and whisk their partner away on a romantic UK break.

Pearl is the traditional gift theme for the 30th AnniversaryAs for the gift, just 14% of adults will buy a present that matches the theme on one of the Anniversary Gift Lists to mark a specific anniversary (such as silver to mark a 25th anniversary or pearls to mark the 30th anniversary). Which surprised us as we have lots of people buying (and searching) for gifts that match one of the gift lists.

Shakila Ahmed, Travelodge’s spokeswoman said, ‘To help celebrate our 30th anniversary, we thought it would be fitting to offer couples who are also celebrating their 30th anniversary this year a free night stay in any one of our 504 UK hotels.

For the great romantic getaway, we have hotels right across the UK in city centres, coastal hotspots and romantic locations such as York, Durham, Bath or the Cotswolds. We also have hotels in Grade II-listed buildings right across the UK, in locations such as London, Edinburgh, Brighton, Leeds and Liverpool.’

If you’re celebrating your 30th Wedding anniversary in 2015 see more of their offer at: https://www.travelodge.co.uk/blog/featured/30th-anniversary-2015-free-night/

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Experience counts for a perfect gift

a well wrapped presentResearchers have discovered the components of a perfect gift and they are all to do with actions rather than physical goods!

Gifts that involve the recipient in an action or event are talked about more than when a gift is just a possession; being able to talk about the gift helps give the recipient an extra bonus to the present which in turn makes it more memorable and pleasurable.

Cornell University’s Amit Kumar chaired a  symposium titled ‘ON DOING AND HAVING’ and updated, by way of empirical data, the work Professor Thomas Gilovich’s previous research that showed that buying experiences brings people more happiness than material purchases.

The research has shown that gifts which involve the recipient in an experience (an Adrenaline challenge or a Romantic Holiday for example) bring more happiness than a purely material purchase (e.g. a commemorative gift or flat-screen television).

One potential explanation of this difference, recent research suggests, is that experiences can prompt storytelling more than mere possessions. The telling of stories has long been seen as a pleasurable experience and facilitate the re-living of the actual event in question; telling stories encourage embellishment, and they foster greater social connection all of which assist to enhance enjoyment of the original gift.

Experiences are better than sliced bread!Researcher’s further studies demonstrated that people are more inclined to talk about their experiences than their material purchases and they derive more happiness from doing so. They also confirmed that taking away the ability to talk about experiences (but not the material goods) could diminish the enjoyment they bring.

In one test participants were told they may keep one gift, either the most significant purchase but without being able to talk about it or the second most important purchase and were allowed to talk about it. Those taking part that recalled experiences were more likely to choose a less significant purchase they could still talk about compared to those who just recalled buying physical gifts.

So what does all this mean? well one point that sprung to mind was that you can be more frugal with a gift that involves an experience as the enjoyment and happiness derived gives you more bang for your buck!

I must admit sitting thinking about gifts I have been given I can easy recount those that involved an experience and although can remember great physical gifts I received I struggle more to recall them. What do you think are gifts you participate in better, let us know?

 

 

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History of Wedding Anniversaries

Anniversaries have been celebrated effectively since the year after the wedding ceremony was invented and  references can be found in records stretching back centuries.

Nicholas Nickleby by Charles Dickens cites a celebration for an 8th wedding Anniversary in Chapter 14 (June 1838) highlighting the fact that not only were the major jubliees celebrated but also the other years.

exerpt from TheMorningChronicle Issue 17572 published 1825The earliest reference in printed form we have found to a Wedding Anniversary  having a symbol associated with it is from The Morning Chronicle Issue No 17572 published in 1825 this refers to Karl August the Grand Duke of the Saxe-Weimar-Eisenach region and his wife Louise of Hesse-Darmstadt who had married on 3rd October 1775 and celebrated 50 years of marriage in 1825.

The earliest reference to the Silver Wedding we have found is in The Era first published on Sunday 29th December 1839.

exerpt from The Era Sunday 29-12-1839

Our favourite reference is from The Belfast Newsletters Issue No.11797 originally printed 27th October 1852;  and recounts the writer finding a Golden Wedding celebration ongoing whislt he walked the streets of a Extract from The Belfast Newsletters 27th October 1852; Issue No.11797 detailing a golden wedding celebrationGerman town.

 

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What do you call the 80th Anniversary?

We’ve been continuing our investigations into what each Wedding Anniversary is called and why, we’ve noticed that Wikipedia have an entry stating that the 80th Anniversary is the Oak Anniversary.

Now we’ve got to say this just seems to be wrong! You’ve been married 80 years, you’ve celebrated your Silver, Golden, Ruby and Diamond Anniversaries and the next Anniversary you’ve to look forward to is Oak, sorry I don’t agree.

We’ve been looking into the references that they mention and it is basically one website (OK it’s the Royal Website) but it is just one site that mentions Oak and when it does it is almost a throw away comment so again Wikipedia has very shaky references.

We emailed the editor of the Royal Web site to see if they could provide further evidence of how and why they believe the Anniversary should be called the Oak Anniversary. They’ve not come back to us yet and that was over a month ago so I suspect we will not get a response until they read a post like this!

So should being married for 80 years be associated with Oak, personally I don’t think so, if anything such a celebration should be given a symbol that has more gravitas.

Our personal favourite is Palladium

Why is this our favourite, well its quite easy really; Palladium is one of the newest precious metals known, given that we now live longer and people are more likely to live long enough to celebrate their 80th Anniversary  then these are effectively new events and hence the two match each other well on this fact. Palladium is also relatively rare such as 80th Anniversaries are and hence again they naturally match each other.

Who knows as we all live longer there may be a call to give the 90th Anniversary a name perhaps by then we could use Unobtainium as the symbol!

What do you think, should we use Palladium as the symbol for the 80th Anniversary? Leave a comment to join in the conversation.

Phil.

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Crystal Wedding (15th Wedding Anniversary) Poem

The holding of celebrations on the anniversaries of different epochs of Married Life has Crystal Vase to represent the crystal weddingbecome a very pleasant feature of modern times from our research it appears these were popularised in the Victorian era.  These celebrations appear to be larger and more lavish than nowadays.

The earlier celebrations for wedding anniversaries bring out lots of happy jollity and kindheartedness. While those pertaining to longer marriages, when the crumbling milestones remind all of the years that have passed on the travel to the “Sweet By and By” are often made the occasion of a deal of sobered pleasure and deep thankfulness, as reminiscences of many merciful “Providences” offset the inevitable mischances that have beset even the happiest journey through life.

We found a poem for the Crystal-Wedding Celebration (Fifteenth Anniversary) from an American book published in 1878

How fast thro’ Time’s glass
Do the swift hours pass!
Fifteen years have now gone down the stream,
Since our host gave this dame
His heart and his name,
In the days when they dreamed Young Love’s Dream.

If ’twas to go over,
He’d still prove a lover,
And worship again, as when in his youth
He pledged his firm troth;
While she, nothing loth.
Gave her heart and her pledge in all truth.

The Hebrews when wed
On crushed crystal tread,
Which gives cause for sad fears and dejection;
But our friends, more true.
Hold a crystal to view
Showing no flaw or speck in reflection.

When Fifteen more years,
With their smiles and tears,
Have passed to the region where forgetfulness lies,
May our host and his bride.
Hand in hand, side by side.
Ever thus see Love mirrored in each other’s eyes.

H.L.W.

The book did not specify who H.L.W was so if anyone can shed some light on whom the poet is please drop us a line.

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Silver-Wedding (25th Wedding Anniversary) Poem

The holding of celebrations on the anniversaries of different epochs of Married Life has Silver Tea set to represent the Silver Weddingbecome a very pleasant feature of modern times from our research it appears these were popularised initially in the Victorian era.  These celebrations, then, appear to be larger and more lavish than nowadays.

The earlier celebrations for wedding anniversaries bring out lots of happy jollity and kindheartedness. While those pertaining to longer marriages, when the crumbling milestones remind all of the years that have passed on the travel to the “Sweet By and By” are often made the occasion of a deal of sobered pleasure and deep thankfulness, as reminiscences of many merciful “Providences” offset the inevitable mischances that have beset even the happiest journey through life.

A Poem we found to mark the Silver-Wedding Celebration (Twenty-Fifth Anniversary.) from an American book published in 1878

Five times five years have winged their flight.
And waved their plumes in calm and strife,
Since this good couple first set out
To tread the path of wedded life.

And we who’ve watched them on the way.
Have seen them keep the narrow path;
All unallured by Pleasure’s charms
They’ve upward toiled over every wrath.

Ring joyous chimes on silver bells!
Let echo spread the mellow sound,
Till distant friends may well pleased list
As joy-tones gladden all around.

Fill to the brim a silver cup
With uninebriating wine,—
And to our host and hostess quaff
The crimson life-blood of the vine.

May we, by their example blessed,
Follow the path which they have trod,—
Winning approval (conscience tried)
From mortals and from mortals’ God.

H.L.W.

The book did not specify who H.L.W was so if anyone can shed some light on whom the poet is please drop us a line.

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Golden Wedding (50th Wedding Anniversary) Poem

The holding of celebrations on the anniversaries of different epochs of Married Life has Gold Jewellery to symbolise the Golden Wedding celebrationbecome a very pleasant feature of modern times from our research it appears these were popularised in the Victorian era.  These celebrations appear to be larger and more lavish than nowadays.

The earlier celebrations for wedding anniversaries bring out lots of happy jollity and kindheartedness. While those pertaining to longer marriages, when the crumbling milestones remind all of the years that have passed on the travel to the “Sweet By and By” are often made the occasion of a deal of sobered pleasure and deep thankfulness, as reminiscences of many merciful “Providences” offset the inevitable mischances that have beset even the happiest journey through life.

The following is a poem we found for the Golden-Wedding Celebration (Fiftieth Anniversary) from an American book published in 1878

Oh, Happy bridal jubilee!
Oh, sight to make the glad heart leap!
To brief recall the joys of youth,
And sooth the cares of years to sleep.

There’s beauty in those silver hairs
Youth’s auburn tresses never saw:
They are they crown of honoured years
Spent in obeying Nature’s law.

If dimples yield to furrowed cheeks.
They have a glory of their own:
Young Dawn is beautiful indeed,
But by the Evening is outshone.

Celestial ladders seem to rise
Skyward, while sunbeam steps unfold;
And crimson draperies hang around
The pathway burnished with bright gold.

So may the autumn of your days
Surpass the promise of your youth;
And troops of friends, and children’s love,
Show Worth still wins applause from Truth. H.L.W.

The book did not specify who H.L.W was so if anyone can shed some light on whom the poet is please drop us a line.

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Tin-Wedding (10th Wedding Anniversary) Poem

The holding of celebrations on the anniversaries of different epochs of Married Life has Tin can with loveheart on the frontbecome a very pleasant feature of modern times from our research it appears these were popularised in the Victorian era.  These celebrations appear to be larger and more lavish than nowadays.

The earlier celebrations for wedding anniversaries bring out lots of happy jollity and kindheartedness. While those pertaining to longer marriages, when the crumbling milestones remind all of the years that have passed on the travel to the “Sweet By and By” are often made the occasion of a deal of sobered pleasure and deep thankfulness, as reminiscences of many merciful “Providences” offset the inevitable mischances that have beset even the happiest journey through life.

We found a Poem for a Tin-Wedding Celebration (Tenth Anniversary)  from an American book published in 1878

Ten years have cycled o’er the lands
In strange eventful roll,
Since our good friends, in -wedlock firm,
Have joined both hand and soul.
And now—if we may judge by signs
Apparent to the dullest sight—
Although they may not mines have dug,
Nor brought the welling “ile” to light.
They’ve won a treasure richer far
Than “barrels of ile,” or piles of gold:
Pure home-life with affections warm.
Which rust eats not, nor cankers mold.

Tin was well chosen—free from spot—
Now ten years you’ve been man and wife
To show how homelike virtues wear—
To the Tenth year of married life.
Not iron, harsh, and rough, and crude,—
A symbol of the reign of force,—
But tin, so smooth, and giving face
To every metal, rough and coarse.
With Tin we think of hearthside themes:.
The dipper in the bucket oaken,
Where wild “Bub” dips poor Sis’s head,
And gives her jaunty curls a soakin’.
The oven—often called the Dutch—
But why—(tho’ they’re not much at boasting)
Unless because Von Troomp could give
His country’s foes a thorough roasting.
Tin saucepans for the dainty taste,
To make good food seem even better;
And mince-pie pans whose luscious bake
Would make Epicurus your debtor.
In ten years’ time a worthy wife
Will know what virtues are in tin.
And rightly used for viands rare,
She’s sure her husband’s love to win. H. L. W

Notes: Read “barrels of ile,” as barrels of oil, fro our scant research it appears ‘ile’ is an old fashioned spelling of oil!

Viands – an item of food

The book did not specify who H.L.W was so if anyone can shed some light on whom the poet is please drop us a line.

If you would like some up to date gift ideas for 10th wedding anniversary then please go to our main sites 10th Anniversary page